Mak said, “CT kawin dah…” –had this kind of conversation so many times already so I replied, “Klu camtu, mak jgn lupa doakan jodoh orang pulak…” Wah, mcm dibukak jalan pulak, she straight away replied that there is this place in BM where one of our relative went to last time where there is a lady yang buatkan ‘mandi munga’ (the way one of my nephews pronounced the word 'bunga'). I said, ‘Ok…” So, the date is fixed sometime in December coz I’ll be busy till then – Heheh! Be patient ‘D’… At the same time, I asked her to try it first with my elder sister – who knows she might be lucky this time around!
I remember last time I asked my mother to make doa for me & at the same time jokingly said, “mak carikan lah…” Mak replied, “kau yg belaja tinggi2 sampai ko London, kojo kek Kolumpo – kau nak suruh mak carikan? Penoreh getah kau nak?” Ouch!!
There are many issues which I would love to address here – one at a time – my jodoh (ajal maut, ..& pertemuan di tangan Tuhan kan!), my sis’s single status, mandi munga (Isy, malunya..) in Islam, but most importantly for now is my Mak.
There are lots of things that she’d do for me & also what I’d do for her.
Take recently – kenduri arwah Ayah- it’s the 3rd year of Ayah’s passing away. She never forgot so it is high time for the kenduri. Last weekend home visit, we discussed to have it sometime around the Independence Day – so that all in the family can be present. However, after checking out the mosque & Imam, all days & nights session are fully booked. So, the only available date was last Thursday (Friday nite). She confirmed with the catering people on Wednesday & I got to know about it only on Thursday noon. Since, I already promised her that I’ll be around so the need to rush back home there & then. Lucky that 2 of my siblings also happened to decide on balik kpg with their kids.
The point is that – I know we can simply make doa from anywhere & it will reach the intended soul (Allah’s willing) but imagined how happy she is when the doa recited by imam was directly amened by Ayah’s own anak2 & cucus.
Last weekend, she attended a kenduri by one of her adik with my sis. My duty was to pick her up by 2pm – none too late mind you, she hates waiting – since I’m too lazy too attend the function & my sis needed to open for business as usual. Well, I did make sure that I arrived earlier than expected & after getting the bungkusan (foods – Thanks but no thanks, I don’t take lunch), salaming all the relatives & we were ready to go. However, one of my cousin (she did tried to match-make again but I’m too old for all this) asked me to detain mak for while as they were planning a surprise birthday party for her mother – mak’s sis. Of course, after much persuasion – mak agreed to stay on. So, what happened was a grand cake-cutting ceremony where she arranged for my mak to sit besides her mak (even the hubby was sitting elsewhere) & surrounded by all the cucus, take pictures & all – my mak almost cried!!! I personally thought she was touched by the attention…we never celebrated her birthday (never anyone birthday- at least while we were kids). The topic of their age came up & she reminded us how old they are now & those who had passed away..I wonder whether we (her own sons & daughters) had shown her our appreciation of what she’d done for us?? Is there time for that now? Was it too late?
What mak did for me recently:
1. Bought me durians when I mentioned that I loved durians but don’t know how to buy good ones (not coz I’m cheapskate ok!)
2. Cooked whatever dished that I mentioned (mind you, though I’m still studying but I’m old enough to turn the table around & cook for her instead)
3. Offered me money when I mentioned I’m getting only half-scholarship nowadays
4. Taught me specific prayers when I asked her to really make doa for me as I find things are getting tougher than usual
5. Have the gate open already when I mentioned I’ll be back at a certain time (Well, she did that for my sis but not the other siblings – coz we’re the only singles?)
6. The list is actually endless…
What I did for mak:
1. Bought her a ‘cheap’ brooch for everyday uses
2. Offered to iron her clothes but so relieved when she said there is no need for me to do that
3. Stopped giving her monthly allowance coz duit gotah tongah mahal maa…
4. Err…very minimal. How embarrassing!
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