Post-Eid Reflection (I know exactly what I want!)

In the interest of scientific enquiry, I have taken the opportunity to observe the following social experiment recently. It involves a pooled dataset of a short time series of three overlapping generation of family members (homo sapiens) with a small cross section of the male species. I found out a significant evidence (at the 5% level) to support the existence of bequest in the form of male chauvinistic behaviors which further exaggerate the gender and social inequality among the human subspecies.

In order to avoid eliciting further revocation from the said-family, I’ve decided to conduct the experiment by regressing the dependent variable, proxied by the so-called future-husband, (instead of just any other males) as a function of a set of control variables. Thus, the existence of my future husband is assumed to be determined by the following variables:

1. Religiousness/Spirituality
He must be able to lead the solat as Imam. Don’t have to be an actual Imam but enough to know a little bit about doa selamat and such. If nama je head of the family but… simple2 things also cannot think and do - so how la eh? Sesekali tu, pergilah jemaah kat surau (if not every waktu)...
Even according to the religious doctrine, Prophet Muhammad SAW said (antara lain bermaksud), “Pilihlah calon isteri (in this case suami da..) berdasarkan rupa, harta, keluarga dan agamanya. Tetapi utamakan agamanya lebih baik jika kamu mengetahui.”
2. Responsibility
He must be a responsible husband to the wife, father to the children, brother to the sisters and most importantly as a good son to the mothers (including my mother) plus respects the elders. My married sisters have to follow their husbands respectively with regards to balik kampong (which sides and for how long) but my bros too have to follow their wifes’ decision (queen-controlled ka?)…so who is looking after my mak? Mak tak kisah…konon!
E.g. of what I mean as being responsible is; even though he is tired after working for so long, he still works harder to provide home (refer Moslow’s hierarchy of needs – basic shelter from the rain & sun, food for the body & soul) for the family. How could you closed one eye & only see what you want to see? Refer appendix.
3. Ringan tulang
He must be willing to help in doing the household chores & looking after the kids without much nagging from me (I nag a lot, couldn’t help it). I personally feel that the males of the family are being pampered too much! Zaman dulu lainlah, kita orang pompuan duduk je kat rumah. Apa si suami bawak balik itulah yg dimasak, pastu jaga anak. But now, women are working to help support the family living a moderate life. How could you expect us to sendukkan nasi dalam your pinggan (boleh tanya lagi, air basuh tangan mana?) & at the same time kelek anak kecil menangis, settle yg besar2 bergaduh berebut makanan/mainan? Sama2 balik kerja but yg lelaki capai surat khabar or remote & mintak secawan kopi? Yg perempuan tak menang tangan, mana nak masak, mengemas, mencuci; forget about menghias diri!
The concept of house-husband (on the other extreme lah) is still considered as prevalently new here in Malaysia but the idea has been getting positive media coverage in certain metropolitan cities of the world.
4. Himself
He is secure in his self importance, confidence and capability (whatever) such that my necessary career is not a hindrance to his ego but more of a boost. No need to prove who is better than whom..no need to put me down la.
Eg. who speaks better English, whose car has bigger power (I raced with a guy once – I might have the advantage of bigger horse power but he knew the road better – all the selekoh maut- so I lost but it was exhilarating! He gave me his number afterward. heheh..), etc.
5. Dummy variable, 0 for urban folk & 1 for rural folk
He, me think, has to be someone with kampong background not bandar lor. I’m really a kampong gal, a traditionalist. The town folks are so high-maintenance & manja, don’t know buat kerja2 one.. my ipar siap kata, “rilex la Maksu (while I was mopping), it’s raya time..” but the floor was dirty! One of my nephews geli2 & complained that the toilets were dirty, guess who had to clean them? Moi again…I told them afterward, “Here at Nenek’s house, no maid ok. Sama2 guna & sama2 cuci la…”
6. Physical traits
He has to be fit and healthy, not handsome but nice to look at (specifically according to my eyes). Fat is no-no (love handles are acceptable when older). Good manner is a must too. If sick or whatever, get treatment la wei…BTW, no smoking, no drinking, no gambling, no clubbing (jamming, karaoke, dangdut included), no addiction of any kind except for high technology items and sports. Metrosexual guy is highly rated but not bisexual or homosexual ok.
7. Emotional stability
He is fun to be with, make jokes appropriately, caring, perceptive blahblah & has all the qualities of a good leader, insyaAllah. But don’t jokes with me especially when I’m being harassed in doing all the household chores. Not so sensitive lah.

Limitations of the study:
Due to the small samples observed and unavailability of longer period panel data, interpretation of the findings should be taken with a grain of sodium chloride (salt lah). Further studies are needed in order to expand the possibilities of policy implications by the relevant authorities.

P/s: I know, you must be thinking- umang ai, panjangnya list! Kuat berleter lak tu! Padanlah masih sendiri coz memilih sgt! I don’t care – I want the best or else…

Appendix
I don’t understand this one person. He is not yet 50. According to the family tree and history, let’s say he lives until the ripe age of 75 (like my ayah who was bedridden for the last 4, 5 years of his life). So we are talking about another 25 years from now. He already decided for himself to ‘pencen’!
Initially claimed he is sick – slip disk or something. Take a lot of MCs. Finally ask for VSS. The doctors cannot prove anything to support his claimed from SOCSO – even to the extent of MRI scan. So, nothing on the conventional medical side. Then he claimed ‘buatan orang’. Next he claimed that he’s tired after working for so long (can I claim tired too for staying in school so long already & looks like until mature age of 60?). He wants to ‘beribadah’ aka jadi orang surau, ikut2 tarikat.
Problem is the 5 kids. All are of school age. They are used to luxurious life before but now everything is different. The wife keeps on working (holding on 2 jobs). I dare to ask but he said he has money (EPF & the VSS) and he does help with paying the bills – only the bills?! Isn’t a husband has to provide everything for the family? Even if he is invalid (which he is not), he can still help with the household chores – literally putting food on the table for the kids, taking care of the homework etc. but no-no. He is egoistic. He is capable of moving around, naik motor etc. He won’t sit beside the wife in the car (cannot drive anymore) but he can stay at home doing nothing? Previously he did mentioned plan of opening workshop or something but looks like hangat2 taik ayam je…
What annoy me further, he expect himself to be treated extra special as head of the family – like a king! Special place at the dinner table, food & drink serve to him first even to the extent of taking over M’s special place at kampong! M is very worried about him financially. M has to share with him the income from the family estate. But is it enough? Long term? I really have had enough of this kind of man. All talk but hampeh!

A history repeating itself. An endless vicious circle. But no speaking ill of the dead aye?
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Could somebody help me here pls? Incompatibility problem?