The facts:
I’m a Malay Muslim – an ordinary one (though I used to go to the other extreme when I was much younger). I have lots of friends (wah, so mendabik dada here). I made friend with everyone (almost!). My best friends are not just the Malays but also the Chinese & Indians.
The situation:
A friend of mine got a nice 2-storey terrace house recently bought by her boyfriend but too scared to stay alone. She offered me to stay with her & at that time I was also looking for a new accommodation (after being kicked out of college but I digress). I talked to mom & one of my sis about staying with her & they said ok (it helped that I mentioned that students overseas used to do that a lot).
When I mentioned to my Malay friends about me moving in with her, they are saying like, “Dah takde rumah Melayu lagi ke kat XXX??”
I understand their point of view. Especially on aurat wanita Muslim in front of bukan Muslim. Since I’ll have to cover everything as per outside (whole body except face & hands – or at minimum aurat bekerja meaning I can expose the neck, arms & feet (up to ankle), I’ll have to wear scarf inside the house as well. (And there's the matter of her bf)
When we were on a trip together last year, we shared the same hotel room since there were only two of us. Sad to say, I didn’t cover up (not because of ignorance, more of laziness – I beg Your forgiveness Oh Allah). Lately, when I stayed overnight at her place over the weekend (I’ve got my own place sharing with other Malays but her house is much nicer – am I materialistic?) I told her about the need for me to wear scarf & she said she already knew about it – Sheeesssh!! I’m so embarrassed again…. BTW, I didn’t tell my other friends about me staying at her place. Why?
This brings me to my dilemma.
The current issue – Lina Joy, IFC, Interfaith etc. I think I know my friend here & I don’t think she’s aiming to convert me to Hinduism (Na’uzubillah). Even the other day, she patiently waited for me to complete my prayer before our shopping date) – I know, I know – you’re saying that she can be pretending to be nice but I hold on to the ayat: Untukmu agamamu & untukku agamaku..(al Kafirun). So, insyaAllah I’m doing all right except that there is this niggling thought in my mind – what will the neighbour/others think when they saw us being close since there are instance of Malays converted to Christianity/Hinduism while still pretending to be Muslim. So, help me out here….
On a second thought – this is not really a dilemma coz I know I’m doing right. It is just that I'm scared of what will people/society thought of me…but then, saya cuma perlu takut pada Allah right?!
1 comment:
Dear akak,
for people in Semenanjung, keadaan macam ni memang cam tak biasa. But as for me, a Borneo girl, tak tau ler nak kata orang kat sini lebih alim or tidak..it's a matter of individual, i think..kalau bagi saya biasa je kot, salahke? as long as we know the border..."Untukmu agamamu, untukku agamaku", yup..let's make this life simple with guide..utamakan yang utama...yang paling jauh dari kemudaratan.
kita kalau nak tengok luaran, memang senang, kan dah ada kes orang yang sibuk berpakaian serba lingkup...tup2 rupanya pasang salib..
dia ada pro n kontra kat situ,..akak tau la..
tapi kalau kat tempat Mon, tambah plak lagi saya punya surrounding dari sekolah berasrama penuh yang campur2...kita buat yang termampu. kat negeri kita, dalam satu keluarga tu kadang-kadang bercampur agama. Iyelah, ada satu keluarga tu, Mak Bapak dia agama lain, anak-anak pulak dah masuk Islam. Tapi memahami dan menghormati masing-masing...tapi tu pendapat saya je la.
-Mon-
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