Only Death and Taxes are Certain (Part III)

Mak selalu bising (sambil tangan menepis2 cubaan ambil gamba curi) pasal, “Ekau ni tak sudah2 amik gamba…buek membazir yo.” But the thing is we never know right when the time comes for us to look back at that pix to remind us of a special someone (who is always in our heart such that a pix-memory isn’t enough- sometimes our poor mind can play tricks too), that special moment of full-loving feeling, …and so much more. So, excusez moi - I’m always snapping merrily everywhere I go – like even during the hospital visits in early last month. It never crossed my mind at that time I was gonna capture him in two-dimensional for the final time.

On the second day after the funeral, my sis who is busy with things around the house while I was busy ‘tinkering’ with a digicam & kids, suddenly dropped by my side & said, “Adik amik gamba aritu kan? Cuci boleh tak?”

So, there I went on the third day to the print shop (Er, the first time ever – for the digital print lah not the shop).

Due to the logistics (now that I am back at workplace), the pix ready & framed but still with me. She called last Sunday (stupid & how insensitive of me – I HAD to ask if she’s ok – initially she sound chirpy but the call end abruptly after she started to cry..). I thot maybe the children esp the youngest misses him so much…

After some coordination, here goes..

Sis#4: Kak4 dah bagi gambar kat Kak3. Dia amik, peluk gambar (close-up 5R) + nangis…
Rad: Alahai……
Sis#3: Walau mcm mana pun suami tu, bila dia dah tak ada, terasa rindu sangat..wlupun ada anak2, tp kerinduan dgn suami yg dah pergi selamanya, dahsyat dan kosong betul rasanya…
Rad: Huhuhu.. Mako eh lopeh ni konolah isteri2 hargai suami2 lobeh2 laie- layanan mau 1st cls! Kasi chan la nak bmanja selg hayat masih ado eh!

Things for me wajib to learn: How to uruskan (mandi&kapan) jenazah
Mak kecik hati coz during ayah’s time, he was ‘managed’ by others (bukan sebarang orang ye, ada jugak badi mayat kalau tak kena gayanya esp if lemah semangat) instead of his own flesh & blood. Esp part cuci kemaluan. Afdhalnya anak sendiri. I managed to convey it to my nephew. Alhamdulillah he (an only son, 17yo) did handle the responsibility so beautifully. From tahlil, mandi jenazah (under supervision of the elders), succintly asking for his forgiveness from the people present, even to the receiving end inside the liang lahad. InsyaAllah, anak yang soleh sebagai bekalan ke akhirat..

A reminder for you & me..